Comments for dadtells.com http://dadtells.com ...Honest conversations with my Sons and Daughters Tue, 06 Jul 2010 00:50:58 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 Comment on One Joy of fatherhood by admin http://dadtells.com/?p=33&cpage=1#comment-6 admin Tue, 06 Jul 2010 00:50:58 +0000 http://dadtells.com/?p=33#comment-6 To My Sons and Daughters, When you one day become a parent, your biggest challenge will be to protect your child from him-or-herself. As he or she struggles and fights for his or her "perceived" independence or desire to grow up too fast, you will do whatever you can to ensure he or she has a good childhood. While attending a workshop this year, this question was asked of the group and I will now ask of you. "What do children want the most?" Of course, we said ipods, computers, cellphones, clothes, and money. The answer was none of these. The simple answer was - to be an adult. Love, Dad To My Sons and Daughters,

When you one day become a parent, your biggest challenge will be to protect your child from him-or-herself. As he or she struggles and fights for his or her “perceived” independence or desire to grow up too fast, you will do whatever you can to ensure he or she has a good childhood.

While attending a workshop this year, this question was asked of the group and I will now ask of you. “What do children want the most?” Of course, we said ipods, computers, cellphones, clothes, and money. The answer was none of these. The simple answer was – to be an adult.

Love,

Dad

]]> Comment on One Joy of fatherhood by ALS http://dadtells.com/?p=33&cpage=1#comment-5 ALS Thu, 01 Jul 2010 16:00:09 +0000 http://dadtells.com/?p=33#comment-5 Growing up my biggest issue was learning to insert my indepence and having it accepted. I never had to question your love although i found a way to question everything else. I have always been the do myself type of child and alot of times you did not allow me to do that. I feel that alot of times people learn from their mistakes and often while i was staying with you, i wasnt allowed to make none. However thinking back now, I faught really hard to do my own thing. Many times I found myself doing the wrong thing just becasuse you wouldnt let me. But like most teenagers you live and you learn and how i felt then doesnt matter much because those thing molded me into who i am today. And i have a better understanding now as to why you were the way you were and i love you for it. Growing up my biggest issue was learning to insert my indepence and having it accepted. I never had to question your love although i found a way to question everything else. I have always been the do myself type of child and alot of times you did not allow me to do that. I feel that alot of times people learn from their mistakes and often while i was staying with you, i wasnt allowed to make none. However thinking back now, I faught really hard to do my own thing. Many times I found myself doing the wrong thing just becasuse you wouldnt let me. But like most teenagers you live and you learn and how i felt then doesnt matter much because those thing molded me into who i am today. And i have a better understanding now as to why you were the way you were and i love you for it.

]]> Comment on To my sons and daughters, by admin http://dadtells.com/?p=1&cpage=1#comment-4 admin Wed, 30 Jun 2010 06:12:58 +0000 http://dadtells.com/?p=1#comment-4 To My Daughter, I appreciate your great comments. I hope you find this blog more interesting and more meaningful then my many boring lectures over the years. I can't promise you it will be but I can try. LOL Love, Dad To My Daughter,

I appreciate your great comments. I hope you find this blog more interesting and more meaningful then my many boring lectures over the years. I can’t promise you it will be but I can try. LOL

Love,

Dad

]]> Comment on Why? by admin http://dadtells.com/?p=6&cpage=1#comment-3 admin Wed, 30 Jun 2010 05:50:38 +0000 http://dadtells.com/?p=6#comment-3 I was asked the other day by one of my sons what did this blog posting suppose to mean. I told him that sometimes it is important to ask yourself "why". For example, why you feel a certain way, why you want to do a certain thing, etc. until you get to the point where you are satisfied with the answer. If you get to point that you are not satisfied with the answer or can not answer why - your journey starts here. Love, Dad I was asked the other day by one of my sons what did this blog posting suppose to mean. I told him that sometimes it is important to ask yourself “why”. For example, why you feel a certain way, why you want to do a certain thing, etc. until you get to the point where you are satisfied with the answer. If you get to point that you are not satisfied with the answer or can not answer why – your journey starts here.

Love,

Dad

]]> Comment on To my sons and daughters, by Alyssa Lashay http://dadtells.com/?p=1&cpage=1#comment-2 Alyssa Lashay Fri, 25 Jun 2010 23:57:16 +0000 http://dadtells.com/?p=1#comment-2 I am the first one to open my mouth and brag about what a great dad I have. Growing up in the environment that I did it wasn't rare for me to have friends whose fathers were missing in action. Even when I was younger like real young I noticed how my cousins dads never came around but I didnt realize what that meant for them until I grew up. Just your being there has made my life that much better. I know all things a man should be and at 21 that comes in handy when dating. And for me the things you didnt say are usually the most important lessons I learned. I dont really hold dear to me the things you said, people will say anything if it makes things convenient for them. However the lessons I learned from you that I hold closet to my heart are all of what you did and never what you said. As a kid growing up in a house with other kids who had different fathers, you telling me that you were coming to get me didnt mean that much to me. I had heard my sisters and brothers father tell them that all the time. And even though you never gave me a reason not to believe you, their dads made it hard. The fact that you showed up meant more then you saying you would. The way I've watched you all these years work hard to provide for the house, and the way you carry yourself. Are other examples of lessons I've learned without you ever opening your mouth. Even with relationships, I expect certain things just from watching the way you treated Nina. I remember plenty of conversations you attempted to have with me that made me uncomfortable or just bored me that i would tune out. But even if I was deaf as a doorknob. As long as I could watch you. I might as well had, had my radio turn on father talk all day on full blast cause I was listening...in my own way. Thanks so much for doing this daddy it means alot to me. And please NO GRAMMAR AND SPELL CHECKING my comments Love you A I am the first one to open my mouth and brag about what a great dad I have. Growing up in the environment that I did it wasn’t rare for me to have friends whose fathers were missing in action. Even when I was younger like real young I noticed how my cousins dads never came around but I didnt realize what that meant for them until I grew up. Just your being there has made my life that much better. I know all things a man should be and at 21 that comes in handy when dating. And for me the things you didnt say are usually the most important lessons I learned. I dont really hold dear to me the things you said, people will say anything if it makes things convenient for them. However the lessons I learned from you that I hold closet to my heart are all of what you did and never what you said. As a kid growing up in a house with other kids who had different fathers, you telling me that you were coming to get me didnt mean that much to me. I had heard my sisters and brothers father tell them that all the time. And even though you never gave me a reason not to believe you, their dads made it hard. The fact that you showed up meant more then you saying you would. The way I’ve watched you all these years work hard to provide for the house, and the way you carry yourself. Are other examples of lessons I’ve learned without you ever opening your mouth. Even with relationships, I expect certain things just from watching the way you treated Nina. I remember plenty of conversations you attempted to have with me that made me uncomfortable or just bored me that i would tune out. But even if I was deaf as a doorknob. As long as I could watch you. I might as well had, had my radio turn on father talk all day on full blast cause I was listening…in my own way.

Thanks so much for doing this daddy it means alot to me. And please NO GRAMMAR AND SPELL CHECKING my comments

Love you
A

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